~Human beings have a subconscious drive to repeat that which they have not mastered~
The subconscious mind is very self centered, and wants to fill itself with positive and rewarding experiences. When you think about this on the surface, it almost seems to contradict the statement before it. However, this subconscious drive is so strong, that it is willing to place you in uncomfortable situations, over and over again, just to have a chance at perfection that one time.
The subconscious mind is very self centered, and wants to fill itself with positive and rewarding experiences. When you think about this on the surface, it almost seems to contradict the statement before it. However, this subconscious drive is so strong, that it is willing to place you in uncomfortable situations, over and over again, just to have a chance at perfection that one time.
Doesn't that put a whole lot into perspective? It's a well known fact that people tend to make the same mistakes more than once. The most common of these mistakes can be seen through the various types of relationships we expose ourselves to. For example, dating a person that has the exact same negative characteristics as the last person you dated. Well, you can stop beating yourself over it because it was your subconscious that put you there! That's right, because you had an unsuccessful relationship with a certain type of person, your subconscious wants you to try it again! Can you think of all the times that we hear that men marry women just like their mothers and women marry men like their fathers? While most of us would deny that this is the case, if you look deep enough, you may just find it to be true. It can be a tricky task, as the subconscious takes pride in masking itself in most situations. That's why they call it the subconscious!
This is not to say that we do not have control over our life's path. It just means that we need to work harder when there is a need for change. In some cases, the situations we find ourselves in can produce very positive effects. We may not enjoy it at the time, but in the end, we benefit from the process. These are usually smaller, less life altering situations that exist in our life for a small period of time, and once they are over, we move on and simply carry with us the overall experience. But then there are those individuals who struggle through life repeating the same pattern and remain there. This is the very reason many people need others to help them cope and handle certain situations. Consider those addicted to drugs, or victims of abuse. These individuals need to make a conscious effort to seek therapy and improve their lives. In cases of addiction and abuse, there are almost always other factors in play; some stronger than others. But throwing in this underlying element of the subconscious certainly doesn't make the process of changing any easier.
The truth is, we all deal with unresolved conflict throughout life. In the end, it's reassuring to know that this only makes us stronger individuals. We are shaped by the events in our lives, negative or positive, and thanks to our unconscious mind, we are driven to master all that is negative. After all, it only wants us to be perfect!